Now unless a pursuit is good for me or fun, I do not pursue it. And I try to bring fun to what is good for me and vice versa. Of course, the activities we have immediate access to that both improve ourselves and are not begrudging can seem…limited. Especially in the age of excess and overstimulation. So I wrote this post to be an easy list to reference when you need inspiration for loving self care that is not so, so boring and annoying.

As our relationships go on though, there's this universal pressure to build on the grandiosity of our time together. We want to wow, to impress our partners in an effort to show them how much they mean to us. And that's a beautiful instinct! But when was the last time you went out to coffee with your partner? My hot take is that a fancy date night can actually hinder more than it helps. Moments don't become special in our lives because they were rare or expensive. They become special because we give our full attention to them.

I do like to read middle grade and young reader books which I talk about a bit more here but now I also keep my eye on the children's section and even the adult stacks with a mind to a dream: of sitting by the bedside of a happy child as I read from a book I love and they are coming to love on a normal night in my future life. Here are the ones I'm holding in my dream.

Here are some of my favorite cozy, easy, health and wellness tips that won't cost you too much (if any) money and you may very well enjoy. It's not a comprehensive list but it's a good place to start.